Monday, June 09, 2008

Lying...and Wait/Weight

So much to tell, so little time.

This picture above was from our "Cambodia" photo shoot in a park. We had a lot of fun and the kids got to play on the playground equipment too. This or a similar shot will be used in some marketing stuff for my company, in association with the Jefferson Award.

Well, the big issue around our abode lately has been one of my children's new habit, lying. While I won't go into details (because my brain is tired of thinking about the topic), it has been exhausting and I have had to shake the mother failure blues. I mean, this is lying over unimportant things, but it scares me that it will lead to lying about important things. Anyway, it has been rather challenging, almost one of the most trying experiences so far as a mom. I know that having D gone is likely part of it, but I am not letting this cherub off that easily as an excuse. They all know right from wrong and I must stay consistent with my behavior corrections, always making sure that they know the rules and boundaries. Exhausting though! However, redeeming them all, we were eating at Bob Evans the other day and after our meal, this older gentleman came up to me and told me he had been watching our family during the meal and that he had not seen such a happy and well-behaved group of kids in a long time. He wanted to congratulate me and my husband (who he also asked about...probably being a bit nosy, but oh well) on raising such great kids. It was a nice salve to my ego since it had been a rough one with the lying...(and yes, apparently I do need external validation...:)

On to D, he has now been gone for over 3 weeks. I miss him so much, in ALLLL areas. We are over 1/3rd of the way done. I am flying out to see him next week for the Navy Officer graduation (and apparently there is some kind of ball also). That will be pure bliss to spend some quality time with him. Before flying there though, I will be attending the Jefferson Awards Ceremony in Washington, D.C. and am really stoked and honored by being chosen as a National recipient. My nanny, who also works for Tabitha and has been an amazing donor over the years, is going with me....leaving my 3 cherubs in the capable and daring hands of her 2 high school girls and her husband. Now, my kids are truly like part of their family so I am not worried and it is only for 2 nights, but if you could send positive thoughts and some prayers their way, that would be great!

And weight, I keep gaining and losing the same 5 pounds. It is insane and ridiculous. I don't know where to find more time, other than to never sleep, which would then make everything else even worse, I don't know when to work out consistently - which is what I need. I am going to keep fighting the good fight though and will not give up. When D returns and our travels are done for the summer (also going to Cambodia for 2 weeks), I am going to set aside time for me at least 3 days a week when I can go to the gym.

Okay, I think that is the big update for now. I am hanging in there, but MISS MISS MISS my D!

Life is this good though,



Christina said...

I love that picture!!! You ALL look just beautiful.

We've had the lying thing too... one child in particular has problems with it, and it's funny because I catch the child in the lie almost every time and yet the child continues to do it. Thankfully it's never anything too serious (stuff like "what's in your mouth?" "Nothing" "Isn't that gum?" "No" "Really, because you smell rather minty...") but it does make me nuts. At this point I just keep telling this child it isn't worth lying because I ALWAYS find out. I'm just hoping that isn't a lie...

Your trip to DC sounds awesome! Hope you have a great time and the kids do too!!

Dedicated said...

As a mom who has played the blame game, let me tell you, it is not your fault.

Lying, sad to say (or happy depending on the way you look at it), is actually just a phase. Not all kids, enter this phase, but some do.

Just like some will try to steal a candy from a store. Or bite, or smack or ..... you name it. Each kid seems to find an issue.

Our job as parents is to not take blame, but to get into action. Teach and re-teach the lesson of correction. Showing our children the path to the right way.

Most kids will easily be corrected, with a little love and time from the parents.

So, don't sweat it - it will be a funny story to share later with your adult children.

Heather said...

Hang in there, I have no helpful advice except to say that there are some tihings we have to wait out. Acer was a chucker down the stairs ghuy - everything went down the stairs. I tried everything to no result.
I finally told him that he was the only one who could stop him from throwing things and I stopped reacting. (mind you this was to a three year old who'd been speaking English for less than a year). Amazingly enough, He stopped. Maybe Something similar for your little one? Putting them in charge of their own veracity. I think there's a veggie tale about it too.
Heather BT, Novice Mom